Anita,

Thank your for your advice and suggestions.  Emotional dysregulation fits my problem perfectly.

I did not break up with Jason and my anxiety trigger regulated itself by yesterday evening.

I am thinking about messaging Jason just to say hey- that conversation was a trigger and I’m fine now.  I think my phone conversation on Monday about the topic did not make much since as my anxiety was on fire.

I also realize that my anxiety increases during the 7 days I do not see Jason in person.  Our messaging during that time in reality is healthy and not excessive. His style of messaging tends to be brief and to the point.  We touch base with each other every day some more, some less depending on what there is to talk about.

I don’t know that I told you yesterday he sent a message saying his ex wife finally signed the divorce papers. Now all they have to do is go to court and make it official on paper.

My understanding is they have been unable to agree for 2 years. Lots of attorney fees- my ex and I only used mediation out of pocket with no attorney.

So in summary I am thinking about sending the message. I am debating if I should ask him to check in more message wise during the 7 days apart.  I have noticed the more I initate messages the more he messages back.  I just do not want to seem too needy.  However these are things I feel like I need from the relationship and him to feel better.

Lindsey