Dear Anna,

you wanted and at the same time didn’t want to cut the ties, obviously, because it’s hard to stay friends with someone you have feelings for. He, as it seems, was seeking you out because he needed some help (He was seeking for my advices about some stuffs and we spent many hours talking.) However, this doesn’t mean that he wanted to pursue you romantically.

Maybe he thought you could be just friends again, you helping him out and giving advice about his student life, e.g. about his poor financial situation that he found himself in after dropping out and not receiving his scholarship any more? Could it be that he wanted your help and advice in such matters, but not any more being involved romantically?

I also understand that you are hearing some hear-say from his best friend: “it also what his best-friend told me very recently: (on Monday actually) him still holding strong regrets for me, not being sure about the situation with me and that girl.” I understand this is hard for you because it could easily take you back into that “what if he still cares?” mindset, and you start hoping, and looking for signs and pursuing him… Even if this were true, it would only be a proof of his troubled mind, because he is certainly not showing any interest in you when you meet him in person. So even if there is a morsel of regret in his mind, there is a huge amount of rejection too. So it’s good that you are not falling for this kind of hear-say (“I don’t want to care anymore”) because it would only hurt you more. The only proper thing, which will help you, is to let him go. Which I know is easier said than done, but still…

Anna, I wish you a nice stay in London, and hope to hear more from you when you return home!