Hi Tee, so:

So he didn’t really withdraw/shut down from you, but only from social life? Am I understanding this right?

His issues in April were about some stuffs with one of his associations, it dealt directly with some people I knew as well. Hence why he reached me out, we even once spent 5 (!!) hours talking about it. A few days after this convo, I was made aware he didn’t feel good, so I sent him a message to cheer him up, to which he told me a few weeks later that he didn’t answer because he felt that nothing good would come from answering it (???).

But yes, basically he didn’t withdraw from me during that time but mostly from the rest except the people he was also trying to help obviously. Otherwise, he didn’t get out of his room and didn’t even shower (for the timeline, he was supposely be dating the other girl for somehow one or two weeks).

Are you saying that those talks – in which you were trying to help him with your advice – made him shut down, even towards you? Or those talks made him shut down only towards the world?

Those talks happened in May and it was actually when I tried to talk to him about the whole situation. The first time I asked him if we could discuss, it was very cordial, all I really wanted was to clear out the situation. He avoided me. And during the next days until I met him the week after, he wasn’t feeling good at all, my friend who lives in the same corridor as him saw him multiple times and he told her he wasn’t ok. I mean, I know he had other reasons to feel bad. But from that moment, he went from someone who seemed to be happy around me, to someone who kind of feared me, I don’t know. In addition, I will talk about it more in details in another post, I’m pretty sure I have a huge part of responsibility in him shutting down during May. Because he is the kind of person who projects a lot onto people and situations. The second time in May I tried to discuss with him As during the famous day I stormed in. After this, I know he completely shut down as well, my friend and him spent a lot of hours talking together during the week-end following this clash. My point here is that also during May I know at 100% he was shut down for at least 2 weeks and half. And when he shut down, he goes completely off from everyone and everything.