Dear SantaFe:

Oh, I am not the owner of the website. I am a member, just like you (only I am very active here daily, for longer than 7 years). You are welcome in regard to my part of your experience here.

“They don’t think they are doing something wrong while they do it” – when they keep doing wrong to you.. they are still doing wrong whether they think so or not.

“These petty tantrums that I felt like throwing today just made me feel worse“- if I was a mother and my child was throwing a tantrum, before I tell the child that her behavior is unacceptable, I would tell the child that I understand that she is angry, and that I understand why she is angry, validating her feelings in this way. And then I’d show her a way to express her anger that is different from throwing a tantrum, so that she has an alternative option to tantrums.

Treat yourself similarly: validate your own feelings, they are justified, and then find an effective way to express.. and resolve your anger, a new way.

anita