Dear Tricia:

“He lied and he cheated so the details would only make things worse for me“- I imagine that yes, knowing the details of his cheating will hurt, better not know those details.

“I don’t understand why this happened and he really won’t talk about it with me“- normally,  a man cheats because another woman gets his attention: she is willing, he is willing and he goes for it, as simple as that. It happens that women view a cheating situation as more complicated than it is.

“I know I need to let go of the idea that I will ever understand what happened“- what if the above is basically what happened, and as it happened he hid it from you and lied to you because he didn’t want you to know. If he is especially averse to conflicts and confrontations (is he?), it is likely that he hid information and lied for no other reason but to avoid a conflict and a confrontation with you.

What do you think?

anita