Dear shookie:

“the issue is why is he still living with his ex”-  I am guessing that her power over him is the power of guilt. Somehow, for some reason, he feels responsible for her, too guilty to stop taking care of her.

“What is the best way to handle this situation?  Any advice would be greatly appreciated“- psychotherapy regarding what I assume to be his misdirected sense of guilt and responsibility, would be best. Did he tell you about the origin of his guilt, where and when it originated (before he met his ex, I imagine).

anita