Dear anita,

I have been struggling these last few days to find the right words for my answer to you. I didnt want to give out overly used or cliché words, but whether or not i will manage to avoid these, i will now give you my thoughts.

I thank you for sharing about your experiences. As i know myself, this takes a lot of courage, so that makes you very brave.

I am also grateful for your kind, undestanding and thoughtful words concerning my accounts. It really means a lot to me.

Reading about how your mother abused you made me feel angry, as you have been so very compassionate and patient with me and me telling you about my problems at length. I cant imagine for the life of me how this woman could call you “an absolute zero”, as how i see things you couldnt be farther from this description. Your mother was not the unlucky one to have you, you were the unlucky one to have her as your mother.

I sincerly hope that my probably emotionally charged words do not hurt you or make light of your (probably still) complicated feelings.

I also hope that you are proud of yourself for standing up for yourself by cutting her out of your life, being here to help others and also having the courage to talk about your past and feelings, because you earned every last bit of it.

If anything i said went too far in any way or made you feel uncomfortable, please tell me.

Ed