Dear Anita.

I’m very sorry for not responding to you for a while.
At my work, we had a sad tragic death.  Mother was our co-worker to be this month.  Her 15 years old daughter ended her life.  I had to support who was the first response team.  One of the gu was junior FF (FireFighter) and he was there at there and he mentally crashed.  The first time has seen the dead body and also she was his younger sister’s age.  It was on the evening news and lots of media came over and we had to deal with it.

I completely shut down my PC and phone for a week.  I did not want to deal with anything except work-related.
I’m sorry I could not let you know about this earlier.

Except for this tragic incident, I’ve been doing okay.  I was so busy and had no time to think about it.
I checked my email today and I had an email from ex.  He said, he is coming to my town and asking about my schedule.
I called him today and chat a while.  We were okay with each other.
He said he was coming this way but did not say what he wants or what reason so I asked him about his winter tire.
He said yes, would like to pick it up…. but I told him that I do not want him to come to my house.  So, I said I will figure it out and let you know.  I did not give him any quick answer and he was okay.  I was concerned about my dog who loves my ex.  She is doing okay without seeing him nowadays so I want to keep my distance.  He understood and he said better the way.
Also, he asked me about my winter pajama and boots which I may need to have.  I did not care but I thanked his concern about it.  Asked him, Do you want me to pick up all my belongings, I asked him then he said NO…

Does he want to play the game again or keep my belongings and control me?

Anything he said during our conversation, I was so relaxed and thinking processing each of his words.
I think I could ask him for all my belongings return but I will wait for a while.
Since practicing not jumping to conclusions, processing…. It works for me.  I could deal with him without any fears.
I have my new therapist appointment Tuesday morning.  I will let you know how it works.

Long week and I just need to relax for an extra few more days.

I will message you again tomorrow.
Thank you for thinking of me and sorry for the delay in my response.