Dear Farnaz:

“She did it multiple times and tried to separate me from others, but in some ways, I did feel separated and like an outsider myself, in my mind“- “but in some ways” or and in some ways? I mean, a little girl’s mother has direct access to the girl’s mind aka brain. Like I said earlier, our childhood years are called our Formative Years because our brains are literally Formed during those years… and some mothers have a heavy hand in forming the brains of her children. Therefore, she tried to separate you from others and she succeeded.

anita: “She wanted you separated, isolated and alone outside of the family as well by instilling“, Farnaz: “and what was her reason do you think?“-

– I think that you unknowingly answered your question in the same post where you asked it: “I am not confident enough to socialize with more successful people… I feel intimidated by them, because being surrounded with losers gave me this security that I’m better than some people“-

-she was not confident enough to socialize with a strong, successful husband and strong, successful children. If she had a strong and successful husband and children, she would have felt intimidated, and so, she broke each one of you for the purpose of being surrounded by losers (your word), and that gave her a feeling of security, a feeling that she is better than any one of you.

To separate and isolate a highly social individual animal, such as a human, is the same as breaking him or her.

Does this make sense to you?

anita