Dear Eric:

You are welcome!

“So last week me and that girl went on a self-photoshoot and we took lots of pictures together, there are pictures of … both of us staring at each other while touching each other’s waist“- congratulations for having these photos taken, a printed memory of … love, lovely!

“I hope she won’t be very judgmental, especially on my physical appearance“- nothing you can do about that, but notice that her sister (the girl you are dating) likes your physical appearance, and that is wonderful, isn’t it?

“I’m confused on how I should react when her sister asked questions to me,  if I act confidently she might think I’m ‘bad’ and experienced, but if I act shy she might think I’m not suitable for her sister“- try to act a bit more confident than you feel, but don’t try to act too confident. You have to act close to how you truly feel, because otherwise, the gap between how you truly feel and how you try to appear will be too evident.

“And also, she’s a year younger than me, it’ll be weird if I’m afraid of her“- prepare yourself, best you can, to look at her sister in the eye and in a friendly way, and with your head held high.

“That girl also told me her sister is really scary when she gets mad, like she once get angry at her ex in the car that the people inside the house can hear her screaming“- I imagine that her sister was embarrassed when she realized that people inside the house heard her screaming. She probably doesn’t want to earn the reputation of being a screaming mad woman.. so she is likely to try to control her temper.

“Thinking of her sister is making me exhausted“- when exhausted, relax. Maybe looking at the recent photos with your girlfriend will help you relax.

“I need to have a plan so that I can have a good first impression on that dinner and also on answering her sister’s questions“- I can put together a list of questions (or you can do it on your own) so that you can prepare your answers ahead of time.

“I feel this girl mostly doesn’t think a lot, like she never assists me in the communication while I’m having dinner with her parents…. Also she never suggested which place to eat, she just follows me“- you told me earlier that you are a follower. Seems like she is a follower too. You know how difficult it is to change in this regard, so please don’t get angry at her for being a follower and don’t demand that she changes.

“I feel like I’ll overthink if the relationship is being exposed in public. But her sister has sent that pic of me and her in the self-photo studio to her boyfriend and friends“- seems to me, that her sister approves of your physical looks and of your relationship with her sister; otherwise she wouldn’t send the photos to her friends, don’t you think?

“That girl told me she plans to show our relationship to public on my birthday next year, but she said if I’m not ready then she won’t do it“- and it very much seems to me that she is serious about you and that indeed, she is a gem!

anita