Dear Lost1Flow:

You are welcome. There is freedom in realizing what is true, even if it is a painful realization. The pain- when you don’t realize a major truth- keeps going and going, but the pain when you do realize a major truth… goes away, it gets resolved.

“So many therapist also say, ‘we cannot blame our parents for everything’ and I’ve taken that probably too literally. Sometimes we can. and should, to move on and forward“- the reason parents are to blame for so much when it comes to their children’s suffering is that parents are very powerful in their children’s lives: a young child is like a blank page and whatever the parent says and does gets written on that page in ink. The point in pointing to parents as the source of our suffering- when it is true that they are- is to no longer suffer, and like you wrote, to move on and forward!

anita