Hi Lily

My concern is that you have been asking questions about this subject for a year now and it hasn’t helped your anxiety over the situation. Realistically, asking more questions may not ease your anxiety. You may have to seek another solution.

It sounds like you’re starting to process things well. I like your idea of refocusing on trust. I’m glad that you can trust your partner.

One thing I like to do when feeling insecure is to compare the reality of my relationship with my fears. I know that I have a loving relationship with my partner. I know he cares and I trust him. But when anxiety and insecurity flares up it is not really about him. It is about my anxiety, my fears, my insecurity and the mental image that they paint in my mind is not one that reflects reality. I have to ask myself “Do these fears fit with the reality of my experience of how I know my partner to be?”