Dear anita and dear Helcat,

Thank you for your input on the situation.

Anita, i think you are right about the emotional connection between me now being triggered just like it happened in the past. I understand why you think that it would have been better for my girlfriend to tell hr, but i know that she is afraid of losing her job, as she only started working in the office a few months ago. Also im not angry towards her but the coworker who treats her like that. The things i suggested when i heard about her issues included her talking to hr, her boss or works council.

Helcat, i thought about that too. If i were to do so, where/ to which person would i sent this anonymous complaint (without any names)?

Helcat, i am also hoping that the harassment situation at your workplace will end and i thank you for your great suggestion.

Ed