Dear helcat,

So yesterday’s valentine dinner went well…

Regarding the gifts – this is another case where your opinion matters more than mine. What you believe will provide relief.

Do you think you made a good choice with the gifts? It’s okay to brag a little here Perhaps this is something else to add to the list of what makes you a good boyfriend?

= On yesterday’s valentine, the gifts went well i put on the bracelet for her and she recorded when i put on for her…. She’s very happy with the bracelet…

But there is a wrong thing that i did, i gave her a handbag and i guess it was too much as only the bracelet is enough…. I was too insecure and not confident that’s why i gave 2 gifts…. Her reaction for the handbag was shocked as maybe she doesnt expect it and because it was a luxury handbag and maybe she thought i was doing too much for her….

I regret giving her the handbag yesterday, i shouldve give her on her birthday this year…. Because if i keep giving her gifts, she might think that i’ll “always” give her….. cause that’s human nature right? I dont want to spoil her with gifts…. I just gave her a luxury handbag, and idk if i still can give her something non luxury as a gift as it’d be “downgrade” isnt it?

I’m glad that being with your girlfriend has been a healing experience for you and you’re enjoying spending time with her in your city. I hope that getting to know someone who is kind and treats you well encourages you to meet more people who are also kind. That way you can build up a strong network of good friends.

Whilst you do have worries I notice that you are making good decisions for yourself. It’s great to see your confidence building. You are always welcome!

= yes i’m happy that i can make my own decisions, but still i expect yesterday would have no regrets as i make the perfect decision…. But turns out i was wrong on giving the handbag….

Also for the social media, yesterday i posted about our relationship…. And till now idk if it’s the right decision…. As yesterday i feel so worried that i have difficulties sleeping because of it….. Many people reacted to my post, they are shocked that im in a relationship now, and most of them gave a congratulations to me…. Idk how i should feel, all this time i didnt expose our relationship, and it felt so calm (idk if people understand what i meant here) as there is no people commenting and people dont know that me and her know each other… it’s like before i posted it feels like a village that is very calm and peaceful, now that i’ve posted it feels like a big city that is very crowded of people commenting about everything in the city….

And also i have trust issues, i dont trust when people congratulate me…. But as a formality i replied them with a thank you….

Also a lot of people that interacted with her know about me now…. And they could comment a lot about me…. With my weaknesses and appearance, there are lots of negative things that they can comment about me….
I even told her before i expose our relationship, cause now that a lot of people will know about our relationship… i dont want our relationship to get affected by other people because it’s our relationship….

It’s like i want our relationship to be safe, that’s why i want to keep protecting it…..

I’m really stressed now as i have difficulty sleeping yesterday, and also woke up few times because of overthinking…..

What do u think of my explanation in these thread? Do u have any opinions? U can give ur personal opinion too….