Dear Adam,

you’re welcome.

I am not sure how to fully offer my help from afar as you mentioned above but I will be sending her a card and poem to just check in on her and let her know she has my complete support.

It’s a good plan to send her a card and a poem, letting her know you’re thinking about her and that she can count on you. You can tell her something similar to what you’ve expressed here: I just want her to know that I am here and I support her even if we aren’t together right now. I am only wanting her to know that I am here to help with her battle.

Should I wait for her to reach out first though? I feel like she may not for a very long time, I just don’t know how long I should wait either.

I don’t think you should wait till she reaches out, because that might indeed take a long while, and she might be uncertain as to how you would react. How have you reacted when she told you she needed space, btw?

She told me she wants to be here for me and still have her in her life but in the past I have always fought so she asked for space and time and wanted me to respect that.

I just want to show her I can be a friend and not just intimately as I know right now it won’t work with her past.

Does it mean she wants to stay friends with you, but not be romantically involved, as she has difficulty with that?

You said she told you at some point she thought you were “the one”, the same you felt about her (My girlfriend of about 9 months who I genuinely thought was the one, and told me she felt the same). But you also said:

She said she genuinely loved me and wished she was the one but didn’t see it working out, constantly torn between her heart and her head and that shebkept having feelings of leaving and it isn’t fair to keep going on like that just because she loved me.

When I read “torn between her heart and her head”, it sounds like she wanted to love you but her heart wasn’t fully in it. There can be two reasons for that. One is (which I assumed earlier) that she can’t love you properly because she doesn’t love herself either. Another reason could be that she can love you as a friend, but not as a lover, i.e. that something stands in the way of her being romantically attracted to you. I haven’t thought about this second option earlier, and it might not be true at all, but just wanted to check with you and make sure I am understanding the situation fully…