Hi Adam,

I believe she thinks I may be triggering her trauma at times but I have always actively adapted to every time this has occurred, giving her reassurance that I am not actually purposefully doing it.

Can you tell me (if it’s okay with you) what exactly triggered her to leave? What was is that you were doing, albeit not purposefully?

She isn’t fully in tune with her emotions and she is definitely overthinks and reads into every little detail

Could you give me an example of a situation where she was looking into every little detail and overthinking?

I am going to do my best to show her I can offer unconditional love even if it isn’t intimate. But I do want her at the end of the day.

It’s good that you’re clear with yourself: that you would like to have her in her life, even if only as a friend. Although you would like her as a partner, if she is willing.

The message you’re planning to send her is mostly good. I wouldn’t include this sentence: “I have the highest vision for your healing“. I know I suggested it to you (to have the highest vision for her healing), but it’s not something I’d send her.

Also this part: I have started writing many poems and I thought you would appreciate their beauty as well as offer some motivation and insight. I don’t want to overwhelm you but I’m happy to send you my poems and encouragement if that is something you would be open too?

I wouldn’t phrase it like this because it might sound a bit too much to assume that she would find your poems beautiful (unless you already sent her your poems in the past and she liked them?). Instead, I’d simply send her one poem, and then I guess if she likes it, she’ll say something and then you can send some more.

Otherwise it is a deep and heartfelt letter. I do hope she likes it.