Dear Karl

I would imagine to be in a polyamourous relationship one would have to not have any issues over jealousy.

If one has any issues or triggers that kind of open relationship would probably be a complete minefield.

I am not sure how this relationship will help you in the longterm with your healing unless you both agree on monogamy and you are also proactive on improving your wellbeing.

In future you both should make your communication clear and not try to second guess or read more into them to help stop further misunderstandings such as coming across as jealous or needy.