Dear Milda:

“I’m always there for people… I have friends that are much less invested in other peoples’ lives and live happier than me“- is it that growing up, you had to always be there for your mother (or father) because she was very unhappy and so, you tried to solve her problems/ make her happy?

And some of your friends were able to focus on their lives while growing up (and onward) because their parents seemed to be emotionally okay?

“I want to start being less invested in others too. Any advice on how to do that?“- I understand and support your desire to be primarily invested in your own life. In asking the questions above, I am trying to figure out your motivation for focusing on others. My advice will probably depend on your answer.

anita