Dear Anita,

(this is my reply to your message November 13th)

“To be free or not, should be the question, I say.”

This question is much easier to answer than, to be or not to be in the relationship. I choose free!

“– you don’t know then if your pull towards N is about your need to please F (being controlled by this need) OR it is a pull that is free from this need.”

Exactly. And I think this is a monumental statement that is the umbrella for a lot of my doubts and negative thoughts and fears about the relationship.

” do I trust my own pull towards N“?- hatchling needs to trust Seaturtle. This is why it is necessary that you make hatchling a PROMISE: to take her hand and walk her through leaving the box and moving away from the box step by step, staying away from it forevermore, no matter what anyone says or does.

-Yes I am attempting to promise this and have it be believed, and also to truly mean it when I say it.

with love,

Seaturtles