Dear Anita,

The whole affair came to a conclusion last night. After 3 days of intermittent communication, she called me and said that she doesn’t want to sleep with me anymore. To be honest, I sort of expected this. It hurt, I am not gonna lie, but, what hurt me more was the reason she gave me for ending it.

So she is a self proclaimed empath and a spiritual person. She believes in past lives, reincarnation, psychic and tarot readings, astrology, cleansing and other stuff. She can apparently absorb energy from people around her and feel what they feel as she is an ’empath’. So if people around her go through any sort of negative emotion, that would overwhelm her and make her experience the same emotion.

Coming back to last night, she said that she wanted to end it because she goes into a depressed state after we have sex. She claimed that this has happened every time we got intimate and that she was able to realize this only a few days back. According to her this is a sign from the universe that my ‘soul’ is not good for her ‘soul’. She also claimed that I drain all her energy when I am with her and called me an ‘energy vampire’.

Now what I don’t understand is, how can I be bad for her soul when I only have respect and love for her? I have never had any ill intentions towards her at all. When I asked her this question, she said that I am a good person but my soul is doing it subconsciously. she told me this is one of those things that are beyond our control. Also how can I be an energy vampire when I respected all her boundaries and have been a good friend (her words)? I have never demanded anything from her nor have I forced her to do anything.

It hurts a lot because she made me the bad guy here. On top of being hurt, I am losing my mind trying to figure out if there was any truth to what she said. How am I even supposed to make sense of her reasons, let alone move on?

Priyan