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November 21, 2023 at 11:47 am #425534PriyanParticipant
Thank you for taking the time to read my response and reply. Yes, you have understood the situation I am in correctly. I am glad that you too think the feelings/actions she displayed in the early stages of the relationship were romantic in nature (regardless of the intent). Thank you so much for that. I was going crazy thinking that I imagined those feelings.
When I met her over the weekend, I casually told her that I am planning on going back to the dating apps to meet new women. She got excited over this and even offered to help me set up my dating profile. If her intent was indeed to get me interested in her romantically to gain control, why would she seem to not care when I said I am going to date other women? Did she smoothly friendzone me?
But why bother having me emotionally invest in her if she was going to friendzone me anyway? Then was it all a game to give her ego a boost?
I don’t think confronting her would do any good. While my brain wants me to walk away, my heart wants me to continue seeing her even though it know it will end badly deep down.
PriyanNovember 17, 2023 at 12:18 pm #425106PriyanParticipant
Thank you for the thought provoking reply. Yes, It is absolutely possible that I just wanted to sleep with her the night I met. But every time I reminded her about our FWB agreement when she wanted something too intimate her response would be ” Don’t worry, I will never expect anything from you other than your physical presence and sex”. So, I assumed we both were on the same page. Also, she never outright came and told me she had feelings for me. That is what made me think if I had imagined her feelings for me.
What baffles me is she seemed to have lost interest in me only after I confessed my feelings. Because I know for a fact that her behavior towards me did not change after I said I only wanted sex from her. I did not see any change in her until the weekend trip where I confessed.
She had been in two failed relationships before. So it is absolutely possible that she is protecting herself by refusing to come out of the FWB box. But it has been a month since she denied having any feelings for me. In this month I have been totally honest with her about my feelings and intentions. I told her how I felt about her the first night we met and what made me change my mind and develop actual romantic feelings for her. She heard all this and said she had seen me only as a friend since the beginning and never saw me as potential romantic partner. I went to the extent of even asking her if she felt any connection when we had sex and her reply was: “No, I just enjoyed the act”. This totally killed me inside and made me question my cue/hint reading skills.
Do you still think that I did not imagine her feelings for me?
After hearing her answer about the sex, I can’t possible imagine she had feelings for me once.