“but the great majority of your long- distance relationship took place over the phone (you saw her in-person only 3 times), therefore, it was appropriate for her to break up with you over the phone.”

Oh it’s her actually who kept in insisting on closing the distance, she was the one who made it official and serious as well. I would’ve waited for a lot more in person dates to get serious but it didn’t take much. Yes over a video call is less intimate than in person but we were on the same page regarding our relationship. I put in a lot of efforts, even closed the distance between us, as I said earlier, I selfishly wanted to care for her as much as possible because whenever I saw her wether in person or video call I would feel so bad it hurted me. I don’t know if it’s attachment or love, I have been in no contact the attachment is less now but I still choose her, because I made promises, I made plans too.

“this person heavily guilt-tripped me, using their efforts to make me feel indebted.”
<p style=”text-align: left;”>I am so sorry that happened to you, but are you sure? Now I am having second thoughts if she considers my efforts as guilt tripping too.</p>