When a loving relationship has gone, it become like dying. What are the stages? There is denial. Cannot believe this is happening. Then one gets angry. She hurt me. She was cruel. I hate her. No. Then, bargaining. One bargains for return to the relationship. What could have been done to avoid this. Next is the depression. Feelings of sadness. And thinking how good thing were and how bad they are now. Finally, after much time has passed, comes acceptance (sort of).

It is a tough road ahead. As time passes, you will spend less and less time thinking about her. Less time having feelings for her. Eventually, you will be more focused upon the present.

Buddhist meditate. Release anger, hate, revenge, desires, wants. Feelings are let go. We do not forget the past. We live in the present. To know where we are now, we must understand the past. To move forward into the future then we must live in the now and plan for the future. I know it is not an easy thing to do when the wound is fresh. Just try not to think about the past so much and focus upon the present. As you practice, it will become easier.