Dear ocean

I am guessing from what you  have said that your boyfriends family does not see their self worth deriving from continually striving for more, better, faster & that they are content with a less is more scenario’s.

I am  also guessing that since you and your boyfriend established early on in the relationship that it was serious and had like wise goals regarding future & family. He may not feel it is necessary to micro manage or reharsh things frequently if your goalposts have not moved.

My own son met his girlfriend and after a year they got engaged and at the same time set their wedding date for the following year. My daughter in law’s family is both academic and artisinal, my family less so.  We have managed to mesh as our ethics and belief in community welfare is our bridging point and now we have 2 happy grandchildren.