next time you notice that you went quiet because you don’t want to do something she wants to do, say in a normal tone: I don’t want to do this.

Ok. But what if I can’t say what I want? I couldn’t say because I did not know anymore. I thought we would go to one place we agreed and it turned out she was all over picking places and I just couldn’t follow. I think I needed time to decide.

I will try to just say that I don’t want to do something next time.

Now I know I agreed to this city she picked but I can’t help thinking: Am I again doing something she picked? I think I kind of am. But I won’t say anything anymore because she tried and she asked and I couldn’t say. And I said okay it’s the best choice. Now I keep thinking I did this again to myself and I won’t enjoy this trip because again it was something she wants to do.

(1) try guided meditations during today and before going to sleep, will you?

Ok, I will do this today. In what way is it going to help?

(2) Therapy with a good therapist will be best.

It’s going to be difficult but I was thinking about this before so probably should looking for someone.

(3) research emotion regulation skills, (part of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, DBT) and CBT, consider buying a book and a workbook on each of these topics, and see how it works for you.

Okay. Thank you Anita.