Hi Gresshoppe

I think that your worries are correct. Ultimatums are a form of emotional abuse. He’s trying to pressure you to do something that you’re not ready for. It would make me question how much he had really changed if he was behaving like this and unwilling to go slowly. That would  be a basic level of care for your feelings. How much do you love someone if there is no care for their feelings? Seems like he only has care for what he wants. You don’t exist to fulfill his desires, you have your own. Please consider what you really want.

Wishing you all the best! ❤️🙏