Dear @anita

To you question about casual sex, she is a hyper sexual for reasons unknown to me. I researched it being common amongst people that have ADHD. It could also be something else but she has confessed the desire and need to be having sex with endless number of men even being a prostitute, since she was like 10. She is very afraid of STDs/STIs and ironically unable to have sex unless she has a strong emotional connection in a monogamous relationship. I now it sounds weird but her weird/nasty desires only come out when she feels safe in a monogamous relationship. So I assume she gets into a relationship and is able to do all this for 1-3 years at a time and then gets unhappy mostly about the man’s inability to provide or be ambitious and starts thinking she can do better. Despite all her materialism, she picks guys that have un-corrupted hearts (her words) and usually they don’t make a lot of money. It’s some kind of paradox. She’s admitted to have tried casual sex but finds its gross and empty.

As for your question about the divine love, I’d say it’s still there as long as we are emotionally connected and not fighting. I have this joke with her that I love her personality after sunset as she is physically tired and her brain is calmer and she is super nice, emotional and connected. She’s agreed that maybe that is her default state and the other overly ambitious strong independent woman that comes out in the morning is because she’s never been able to depend on any man. When we are in a good place, she is super nice to me and says things like I have such a calming effect on her and that I’m so good for her. But all my goodness got away at daybreak when she switches her focus on work, career, ambition, money, material goods etc.

Yes, I did just request a couples therapy session. Hoping it helps.