Dear Renn:

(I am adding the boldface feature selectively  to your quotes): “Even last night we actually did have a massive argument over him calling me stupid. He says he didn’t mean that I was stupid, just that I had done a stupid thing. All it was, that I didn’t eat much that day because I was stressed. He started calling me childish and saying a bunch of stuff, like how he didn’t think we were friends and that we were just bf and gf”-

– he is an ANGRY young man who expresses his anger through name calling and accusations, like a child throwing an anger tantrum, telling you: You are Stupid! You are Childish! You are Not my Friend!

“I really do love him and he is just looking out for me“- do you mean that him calling you names and throwing temper tantrums equals to him looking out for you? Or is it that you really do love him, so you prefer to think of his misbehavior as looking out for you?

“but I don’t think he really goes about it in the way I personally would“- you personally do not call him stupid, childish, etc.?

“I hate the whole suspecting thing, it makes me feel like I’ve done something wrong when I haven’t at all… I really care about him“- if you start a relationship with a suspicious man who distrusts you, and you stay long enough, sooner or later, you start distrusting yourself.

“I never really know if I should be listening to my head or my heart and I don’t even know if my head and my heart are pointing the same way or not… I probably know how I really feel deep down, but I am really finding it hard to work out what it is that I actually think… I have no idea what my ‘gut feeling’ actually is telling me“-

– Here are a few possibilities of what your gut is trying to tell you. Please read when you are calm, and let me know if any (or what combination) of the following rings true to you, and elaborate on what feels true to you:

1) I really love him, I don’t want to ever let him go.

2) One day he’ll trust me and being with him will be wonderful.

3) It’d be a dream come true to turn someone who is angry at me, into someone who is loving me.

4) He loves much, no one else will love me that much. He will never leave me.

anita