Hi Franco

I’m sorry to hear that you feel ashamed of still being a virgin. There is nothing to be ashamed of. My husband was a late bloomer. He is very well rounded and an awesome person. You sound like one too. 😊

It sounds like a good thing that you are interested in getting over your fear of rejection and asking a woman out. I assume that you have already been talking with this woman? What were you thinking of saying when asking her out? What is acceptable in your culture?

The rejection that you experienced before, was it particularly bad that caused you to isolate yourself?

There is no neon sign indicating that you are a virgin, so it won’t affect asking someone out. You don’t need to share that information until you get to know someone more deeply.

Advice I heard from a therapist about getting over fear of rejection was to ask 100 random women out on a busy street. I don’t know if this is culturally appropriate though. The idea is you get some yeses. Some nos. And get used to rejection. It can be easier coming from someone that you are not interested in and never see them again. You don’t really have to get to 100 either. Just as long as is needed for the message to sink in.

What about rejection makes you afraid? How does the idea of it make you feel?

Dating really is a numbers game, like a lottery. It is a search for someone that you are compatible with and it is not personal if the individual doesn’t feel that there is compatibility.

To understand more about the importance of compatibility, consider what you are looking for in a partner? What aren’t you looking for?

Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏