Dear Seaturtle:

“I have this new fear that came along with the positive growth, and it is that I will lose myself in a relationship again… Relationships create a barrier between me and my intuition.. I wonder why this is…? Anita, I’d also love your thoughts on this!“-

– my thoughts: a romantic relationship re-opens your Unseen Wound, a wound created in childhood, and when that happens, the blood seeping from the re-opened wound floods you emotionally and drowns your intuition.

“I wonder… if it is possible to get my intuition to always be at my forefront?“- my thoughts: yes, by healing your Unseen Wound- a long-term project.

You can prepare yourself for your next relationship by doing an exercise that starts with listing all the specific behaviors by N that made your Unseen Wound bleed, and for each behavior, figure out if it is it reasonable and fair to expect your future partner to never do this or that behavior. If this beginning of an exercise makes sense to you, let me know and we can develop it further.

anita