Dear Clara:

“She just wants to escape… I did not see her finding ways to solve the problem at all, it makes sense also since she lost interest in me“- I think that losing interest in you was her solution!

“but on the other hand hearing her say she cares sounds very ambivalent“- my feel is that she wasn’t honest when she said she cares (after losing interest in you).

“I think her pattern is shown through her work ( burn out and quit)“- her solution to problems at work (as it is to problems in a relationship) is to lose interest.. and quit.

“I am breaking my anxious attachment slowly and making it conscious. i think she is still stuck in her world and will inevitably repeat the pattern.“- she’ll repeat the pattern but you will no longer be caught in her pattern!