Dear Devin:

It sounds like you put a lot of effort and heart into your relationships, which shows how deeply you care for those you love. It’s natural to want that same level of care and effort in return. Feeling like you’re giving more than you’re receiving can be really tough and disheartening.

Relationships are about balance and mutual respect. It’s important to feel valued and appreciated for what you bring to the table. If you’re consistently feeling like the other person isn’t meeting you halfway, it might be worth having a conversation with them about how you’re feeling. Sometimes, people might not realize the impact of their actions, and a heart-to-heart talk can help bridge that gap.

Additionally, it’s important to remember that your worth isn’t determined by how much you give in a relationship. You deserve to be loved and cared for. It’s okay to set boundaries and express your needs. Being a “needy freak” isn’t a bad thing—it’s a sign that you know what you need to feel secure and happy in a relationship.

Taking some time to reflect on what you want and need in a relationship can help you find balance and ensure that your efforts are reciprocated. You deserve a partner who appreciates and values you for who you are.

If you ever need someone to talk to or just want to share your thoughts, I’m here for you.

anita