Okay, so I will give you my point of view. I’m an outsider looking in. It’s much harder when you are on the inside, looking out. It sounds like you know what is good for you. You know he isn’t good for you. You have children. You want to raise your kids in a positive environment. You have to be strong. Keep him out of your life. If you know by talking to him, you fall for him, you have to end that. Avoid him. Move on with your life. Love yourself, or no one else will. People can be manipulative. People can be cunning. Especially if they see that you have a big heart, if you have weakness, anything they can feed off. You don’t deserve to be lied to. You don’t deserve to be hit. You deserve to be treated like a queen, and you can be. Raise your head up high, move on. Be strong for yourself. Sometimes, it’s easier to do the same thing and harder to change. You said you are bipolar, that doesn’t mean you can’t live a great life. A lot of people these days are bipolar. I feel like everyone has something they have to deal with in their lives. We are all on our own paths. Make some changes. Stay positive. Be a good influence on your children. Have a good heart, don’t let anyone ever change that. I hope this helps.

Dear Melissa, You mentioned alcohol and drug problems. That would seem to be the very first thing to take care of. Are you willing to get clean and sober and live a life that will teach your children how to live. If you are Alcoholics Anonymous has helped over two million people get sober and get their lives back on track. You may be obsessed with this man but you can’t love someone who beats you up physically or emotionally. A book called Facing Love Addiction by Pia Melody really helped me. I hear a lot of my past relationship in what you have shared. I ended up trying to kill myself because I was so beaten down by that man. Today I’d keep him away with a restraining order if I had to.
You know his lies are lies. So why believe them? he may start beating you again. men who abuse continue to abuse and then it’s all hearts and flowers until the next time. Don’t let him use your mental illness against you. That’s what my partner did too. I came to hate the woman I was when I was with him and I came so close to punching him. That’s when I said he had to leave. I sometimes miss having the good parts but I would never again pay the price. Your children need to see you stand up and be strong. get the help of a social worker if that’s what it takes. I wish you well. I wish you strength. it won’t be easy but we women are daughters of the goddesses and God. Let us know how you are doing.