Hi Bernadette,
You admit that you are self destructive in this relationship. You also point to a reason why you have stayed in such a poor relationship, i.e. fear of being alone, fear of not being worthy enough.

You are asking what to do. Re-read what you said in the first sentence. What would you advise anyone else who wrote what you wrote?

What would you say to someone who has suffered a five year up-and-down relationship with no self esteem?

I am sorry for your pain. The answer is in the mirror.

Mark

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