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  • #51594
    Jen
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    From strangers we became friends. Then from friends, we became good friends. Then somehow due to some incidents, we became really close friends. So close that I finally started to like him for who he is after my Asia trip. He made me feel like he should be given a chance as how everyone has been telling me. He did everything for me in Asia. Every little thing he did, I felt it but I have never said anything to him. (Which I think is my fault but at a same time…I think it’s a good thing that I didn’t tell him anything. God saved me!)

    Last week, I decided to sort of tell him that I miss him after realizing that he did so much for me. The day I tell him is the day he tells me that he is back with his EX. I wasn’t feeling heartbroken because I was not committed yet. I was more angry and disappointed because he was the one who told me not to hang out with his EX. I never knew this day would come. I never knew and never expected. I never had a clue that he can change his mind like a person changes his clothes in the fitting room.
    I always have problems trusting people in my life. I have so many friends and best friends. Somehow, he was the only one who I trusted most and who I shared the most of my everyday life. There were so many things I tell him that I don’t share with anyone. But today, I learned that I have always been right with my judgement and that there is no one in this world who can be trusted other than your own family members and God. People can literally take U turns, leave you behind and forget what they did or said to you throughout the journey. Well as they say…This is life and life is always full of surprises.

    Today, I am not angry anymore as I felt that God was actually looking after me. He is looking after me, holding my hands and guiding me through this journey of my life. I feel more happy and blessed than sad. If it wasn’t for him, I would have been trapped already. I feel lucky as I always did. I was so close to being trapped. God came at the perfect timing and pulled me out from the deep pothole. Thank you Lord!

    I realized that it’s not worth of me to waste my precious time and to be angry with him. He has been a really good and trusting friend for the past few months and those moments will always be cherished and down in the memory lane. Don’t get me wrong. We are still good friends and will always remain as good friends but….There is a huge ‘but’ here. BUT I will be more careful as to what I share with him moving forward. Like I said, there is no one who can be fully trusted other than your family members and God.

    My trip to Asia opened up my eyes. I learned so much in just 2 weeks. I learned that people can be so true to you one day and slap you on your face the next day. People mind changes so quickly that really shocks you. Yes, did I say ‘Slap’ earlier? That’s how I felt on Friday night when I came to know that he went back to his EX. I asked myself why I was angry with him and what’s there to be angry or mad. It’s his life after all. I can’t stop him from doing anything. I will just wait patiently and see the outcome from far away. I have a busy life and I have so much ahead of me to take care of with a bright future. I didn’t do anything wrong. I guess I am just angry because he was the one who has been telling me for months to stay away from his so called ‘bitch’. He was the one who has been reminding me for the wrong doings that his EX did to him and me. Oh well…All I can do right now is wish him well from and wish he will have the best time in his life with my EX best friend. Hope his dreams will come true.

    **Feeling happy and blessed**

    Confidence and ability to survive under every difficult situation is the key to a bright future – anonymous
    Face every problem boldly and results will be highly satisfactory – anonymous

    #52510
    misterman
    Participant

    Neither of you committed to each other. I can relate it can be terrifying. You say he was there for you in every way, yet you believe he owed you more. The reality is he owed you nothing, committed to nothing with you bar him being extremely generous towards you. Yet somehow you interpreted this as a betrayal. Perhaps in his eyes it was easier to go back to something familiar than risk being hurt with you. As it appears you made very little effort to show him your appreciation. Relationships are all about communication, you seem to have hastily judged another without it seems any self reflection on your part.

    #52520
    The Ruminant
    Participant

    I agree.

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