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  • March 20, 2014 at 9:10 am #53159
    Anonymous
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    2013, I came back home to get married and settle down.

    After living 7 years abroad, studying and working, I decided to settle down (getting married the arranged-way as I am Indian, also I was having no luck in dating scene.)

    At the end of 2012, I was feeling very lonely, as all my friends from Uni and work colleagues, were in relationships or moving towards family life. I was the odd one out and had nobody to hangout with. That is why I decided to come back home to my parents and when they introduced me to this guy, I said yes, hoping to finally be in a relationship and settle down.

    The guy left me at the altar, as he decided he does not like me that much to get married to. I am working here, but do not enjoy the unprofessional attitude and non-creative environment. I am on auto-pilot at the moment, do not have any dreams or goals to reach, got a don’t care attitude. My day consist of going to work, coming back home, a bit of exercise and my parents. I have become quite comfortable living a lazy life, dependent on others for every little thing.

    I got presented with an opportunity to travel to Europe again, but I am scared of being all alone again, without anyone to hang out with. As most of the people at my age abroad are in relationships. I am 31-year old female. Also, what is the point in travelling extensively and living in a foreign land, but alone?

    I am not enjoying myself here as I have lost my free-spirit and I am too scared to live alone abroad, I am going mad over-thinking?

    March 20, 2014 at 2:48 pm #53177
    Jenna
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    Network7, The good news is that you recognize there may be some room for improvement in your life and you are seeking to change it. The bad news is that you are seeking something outside of yourself to change it. I have found that one of the toughest things in life is learning to be/live the change you seek. I am still struggling with this but making baby steps forward everyday. Only you can find time to dream, set goals for your life, and change your attitude. No one else can do it for you. If you want others to hang out with you, try enjoying hanging out with yourself first. I bet you have a lot going for you (after all you are posting on this site…which is really cool) but have not spent much time thinking about it or cultivating it. Don’t be lazy. Love yourself too much to be lazy. Life is too short and time passes very quickly. Enjoy your youth and all the opportunities that are out there. Finally, don’t waste time being scared and please let yourself out of the jail you are creating for yourself. Good luck!!

    March 23, 2014 at 5:31 am #53405
    @Jasmine-3
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    Thanks Jenna.

    Hi Network7

    These words from Susan Jeffers come to mind as I read your post. See if the words resonate with your heart and provide you with the answers that you seek.

    Follow your heart – Shoulds or shouldn’ts are signs of our need to conform. They come from the lower self. They make us worry. They make us do too much, think too much, plan too much. They make us lose sight of who we really are. Remember that from a Higher self perspective, our enjoyment and contribution to life come from following our own heart…..and everyone’s heart is different.

    Be your own person – tune into the wisdom within. The Higher self holds wisdom beyond our wildest dreams that can lead us to exactly where we need to go for our highest good. Simply ask your Higher self what is right for you to do relative to your purpose here on earth, listen for the loving response, then act accordingly. This is being your own person. This is being the best that you can be.

    Sending you loads of positive energy,

    J

    March 24, 2014 at 4:07 am #53432
    swangletang
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    Everyone has a different journey in life, remember that. Don’t compare yourself to others.

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