So, essentially you’re looking for reassurance that seeking reassurance isn’t such a bad thing? 😉

The problem is, that right now you are viewing everything from the point of view of a person who is feeling insecure about herself and has given away all her power and is desperately trying to loan it back now and again from other people. If someone says that you are right and good and lovable, it’ll only give you security for a moment, but when the moment is gone again, you’ll need your fix again. It’s not a good situation for you, nor for other people. But instead of focusing on if it’s a good thing or a bad thing, why not just start taking action, right now, where you summon back all your power and hold onto it. Don’t give it away. Instead of asking someone else if something looks good on you, you dress the way you think looks good on you. Do what makes you happy. You think you did your job well? Be happy and feel great about what a wonderful worker you are. If you start to look for compliments, then you’re gambling with your own happiness. Whether other people are the sort who notice and give compliments has more to do with them and their own situation in life rather than you.

If you do things that make you happy, then would you have chosen to be with your ex in the first place? Would you need the compliments of others if you already felt good about yourself? Perhaps you would’ve chosen to be with someone who also thought that you’re wonderful, because it corresponded with your own view of yourself. Perhaps you would feel joyous that others like your choices in life as well, if they randomly complimented you on who you are, what you look like and what you do. You can enjoy all those things, but there’s a mismatch in thinking that you aren’t good enough, but still expect other people to see you as you being good enough. Such conflicting energy, and it can’t work.