Thanks Cyd.

Hey Tracey

Aaaahhhhha…so we come to the main point now : how to learn to be loving to yourself. Hey, I have heaps of strategies that I have used with great success. I will cut and paste some of my older posts here. Bear with me, pls.

Impt point to grasp and reflect on: People do what they do as it feels right to them at that point in time. Everyone is unique and different. While we all long for love and acceptance deep down, we express it in different ways depending on our environmental, social, genetic and spiritual conditioning. NO ONE IS EVER WRONG IN A TrUE SENSE. It is only a matter of personal perspective, which changes constantly as we grow our consciousness.

What can you do to make yourself feel proud of yourself:
– forget about your age; age means nothing anymore when it comes to finding your love or having kids in this world. Please do not become a victim of societal pressures. You can get married at the age of 70 as well. What matters is that you are kind to yourself and have a beautiful heart.

– love yourself : If you do not love yourself and respect yourself the most, everyone else will just come and walk all over you in some form or other. You will never achieve stability in your head even after having a family or kids. It is our mind, which is amazingly powerful and keeps us stuck in the rut if we do not take control of it.

– accept yourself the way you are and it will become effortless to accept everyone else as they are. Forgive yourself and it will become effortless to forgive others.

– accept that there is ONLY ONE of YOU in this world. There can never be another one of you ever, which means you are very special and valued member of this Universe. You have a purpose for being here. Pls look after yourself and smile heaps. Listen to soul soothing music, dance to your hearts content, cook for yourself, go out for a coffee date with yourself, go for a swim and catch the waves, exercise etc. There are so many things that you can do with TRACEY – you just need to find what makes your heart sing n dance 🙂

– write down all the lessons that you can learn from the last few years and previous relationship and see which ones bring the most happiness into your life if you could incorporate those lessons. Every incident, relationship (good or bad), every person is here to teach us something or learn something from us. What did this ex teach you ? What can you take into the future ? What needs to be left behind forever ?

– pls pls pls pls pls let go and forgive this ex of yours. Let him go. When you do that, you will free yourself in a huge way and it will be a liberating experience. Grieve if need be but move forward sooner rather than later.

– always remember, you are loved by YOU no matter what happens in this world. YOU will always be there for yourself. So why the self- doubt or any fear ?

– There is an awesome author by the name of Susan Jeffers (who has left the body now) who should be able to start you on your journey. Her book titled, Feel the fear and do it anyway, will come handy every time you feel down or need a pick me up. Start with the last 2 chapters and if they resonate with your being, you can read the first 10 simple chapters for various tools that you can use. What is required is disciplined ACTION on your part. Often, we want to do things or make positive changes in our lives but forget to take the action. Until, we apply the learnings into our life, changes do not occur.

– http://tinybuddha.com/topic/4-strategies-to-heal-a-broken-heart/ – excellent article by Cynthia posted few weeks ago on TB.

– helping others achieve their goals and happiness helps to bring more of the same in our lives. Consider smiling more, giving way to someone in traffic, help someone out with loose change, buy a cuppa for someone random, say random thanks etc. All these activities will increase your positivity level and wah lah, soon you will be telling us how good life is 🙂

Blessings,

J