In my opinion, to heal you must know you are hurt. Its totally okay and normal to feel that like there is a huge void and a part of you is missing. Its okay to bawl, to be angry and feel like you didn’t deserve any of this. Sometimes we really want to “get over it” when a relationship doesn’t work out, you want to rush to a new beginning and feel better as soon as possible but really you need to give yourself time to mourn.
I know from experience it feels weird to feel hurt by the fact that his guy is no longer in your life, almost a sense of self-loathing because you know he is a prick. But, really you are mourning the loss of who you thought he was not necessarily because you miss the prick he turns out to be. I find that healing and moving on is much easier when you don’t bottle or turn away from the emotions you experience because they are pretty much universal and your not alone. It helps to cry, punch a pillow a couple of times and find a family/friend you can rant to.
Have you ever heard of the 5 stages of Loss? It can apply to relationships, I like to be a know-it-all so it really helps when I can have something explaining things I feel and have something on paper telling me eventually I will reach acceptance and move on. 🙂
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