Thank you Inky and Matt for your amazing replies.

Hey Sojourner,

I felt a little confused reading your post and had to read it a few times to understand your question. I will provide my perspective, which may or may not agree with you today.

Hey, when you need to have a shower, take a dump, have breakfast or wear a particular dress, do you seek anyone’s permission or validation ? I suspect your answer is going to be no. Then, why do you need an outside light on this issue ?

You seem like a very sensible and mature lady from the post and you seem to know the answers to your queries as well. What is the real reason behind writing this post ?

When you couldn’t find the right person in the guy you dated for 2 years, how do you expect to find the right person by just testing the waters ? Sometimes, to find the right answers, we need to take a deep dive into our hearts and mind to understand what it is that we seek. Similarly, to find the right partner or companion, you need to go through some not so compatible partners. Until we try different types of food to decide which suits our own tastebuds or sense of smell, how can we be so sure that a certain food is not to our liking just by looking at it ? And who decides the rule as to what is wrong or right in this world anyway ? Who decides if someone or something can stand the test of time ?

I personally think at this age, you should be able to enjoy your life as and how you want it to be – no one is watching you lady. You are your own boss and whatever you do will be for your best 🙂

May you find the real answer that your heart seeks.

Cheers

J