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June 8, 2014 at 2:31 pm #58358bellapupettaParticipant
Hi all! How are you?
Well, I met a guy few months ago (in person) and we used to talk each day at Facebook. He used to be lovely and fun, wrote a song for me and weeks later, said he wanted as a girl. Ok, that’s not a problem! The problem is I was bullied at the school and for some reasons, I’m afraid of commitment (I had a boyfriend yet), never told him about it.
I’d say I’m not in love, but I like our talk, he used to compliment me a lot, say almost everytime!
Anyway, I made something stupid. I’m jealous (I know) because he has a pretty close friend. They are always together – I don’t know how do I explain it! – well, I told him ” I think she is your girl, you should be with her.” He was like ” come on, she is just a friend. I don’t have a girl, I want you.” Ok, we’ve made it up! I talked to my brother and he said ” when someone has a close friend, you don’t need to worry about because probably they are just friends.”
2 weeks later, we (me and the guy) were talking when I said I need to take a medicine because I was nervous. He just laughed! And I got mad. Then I said ” I don’t wanna talk to you anymore, you don’t have feelings. Bla bla bla” He told me bad things like “imature”, “I had a girl just like you. Anyway, I’m in love with you but it seems you don’t wanna be with me, let’s take a break. Bla bla bla”
I’d say we are in the no contact period about a month. We were just friends.
So…I taped a video, to tell him things. But I don’t know really if I should apologize or follow my heart and forget that guy forever. Btw, I don’t speak english very well. I’m confused.June 8, 2014 at 5:18 pm #58362AnonymousInactiveHey, Raphaela. Listen to me. As long as he’s not the type of person that will hurt you in the long run, I say you should follow your heart. But if you’re unsure, you can talk to your mother, father, friend, guidance counselor, therapist, anyone that will lend you an ear to hear your complicated story. I hope things go well for you.
June 8, 2014 at 5:28 pm #58363Big blueParticipantHi Raphaela,
You are upset over what happened. It is not unusual to have misunderstandings. It is also not unusual to take medicines. It seems you should not send the video because 1) he may not understand you as well as a discussion, and 2) it could get shared by accident. You can just send a FB message saying there was a misunderstanding and ask if you and he would like to talk again. If he says yes then talk. If he says no then give him time. If a lot of time passes try to focus on yourself and move on. Would this make sense?
Big blue
June 9, 2014 at 9:09 am #58405bellapupettaParticipantHey guys! Thank you for the advices. I’m thinking about what should I do because I don’t want to make another mistake 🙂 Big Blue, I’m pretty sure that make sense, no doubts.
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