This is a bit weird, because I’m going through a very similar situation right now. I recently told one of my friends I’m pregnant and her response was : “That is good for you, but not so good for me. It’s actually pretty boring to hang out with people who have kids, they change so much. Now you wont see me as often and as much. I’m telling you this because I like you. I have to be honest and say how I feel about this, what it is like for ME.” Then she went on to talk about a guy who broke my heart a long time ago and suggessted that we should hang out with him more often, even though I’ve told her seeing him reminds me of bad times and I don’t really like him. It felt like, even though I cannot prove it, as if she was rubbing a failure of mine in my face to sort of bring me down to earth, put me in my place. And I also felt she was selfish to make this whole situation about her. I have a problem with bounderies, I find it hard to demand respect etc, so I didn’t defend myself at the time. I just hate it when I get angry afterwards and feel :I should have said this, I should have said that”, you know? The problem is that this friend and I have many mutual friends and we’re also involved in a buisness together. This is not the forst time she’s been crossing my bounderies. I have protsted in the past but it just feels impossible to talk about things with her, like she’s living under different rules of right and wrong or something. When you are deeply involved with a person like this it gets hard to trust your own emotions and limits, because she sets the rules in the relationship.
I’m sorry if I’ve “stolen” your topic. But I’ll just tell you about the conclusions I have made, and maybe it can help you : I think it’s pretty obvious that your friend is jealous and unhappy with her own life. It can certainly be tough to feel happy for other people when you feel like a loser yourself, however : everyone should at least try. Nothing gets better if you hate on the world. And your friend does not try. It’s sad really, when you think about it. But I doubt that you can change her, because ultimately she is selfish. And she can’t be happy for you, then she’s unable to feel true friendship and love, her loss. I think you should end the relationship, even though it is hard. In the end you need to protect yourself. Maybe you can write a letter to her, explaining your actions. It does not have to be a defensive letter, wish her the best of luck, but be sure to explain how she’s hurt your feelings. Then make sure to validate your true friends (people who are happy for you when you are doing well and there for you when you are not doing well, simple as that), and enjoy your marriage. You have earned it!
Best of luck to you! Sorry for spelling mistakes. (I’m from Italy, english is not my forst language)