Hi Hilary,

I know what you mean. I went to a Christmas party one year hosted by a huge family with lots of friends. I appreciated what they had and it was a great experience.

One thought is to pay your friend a compliment – something like, “Wow, I had such a great time at your party. What a nice group…how did everyone get to know each other so well?”

Another thought is to host some gatherings to develop your own big parties.

My last thought is to be happy with yourself and your current situation, i.e., to not compare yourself to your friend too much. It’s ok to strive, but just as long as you do not feel shame. That implies something is wrong with you which is not accurate.

I hope this helps.

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