Well, here’s the thing. For $$, unless you’re a millionaire, only count on or budget for the $$ you’re bringing in. If there’s any $$ he brings in or left over, think of that as a happy extra. But don’t count on it.
He (my opinion only) should/could live there. But, obviously, sex is out for health and emotional reasons. Forget checking up on him. What else do you need to know??
When your DD’s older, yes, get a divorce, start over. While you’re both at home, he can be an extra hand with childcare/chores. But I wouldn’t have him take her out alone for a long weekend or anything! (who knows who he’d meet?)
Meanwhile, you need TIME for the dust to settle.
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