Yes I feel as though I need to say something as well but perhaps my delivery is not quite on point. I usually find out he has txted her and then I feel my heart exploding in my chest and I react rather quickly. I try to hold myself together but it is written all over me that something is up. When he asks what is wrong, I say to him ‘why are you talking to her?’ .. it usually erupts into an argument and then we just seem to wait until next time when it happens again. When I argue I try to stay calm and talk like an adult but he usually has had enough of my feelings and wants out of the house.

I haven’t really told any of my friends about the situation as I never like to talk ‘badly’ about my partner as people only tend to remember the ‘bad’ things you say and never the good things. That is why I have reached out in this forum as I need unbiased advice.

I don’t want his ex in the picture either. I am not on bad terms with my ex and I occasionally txt him to ask a question or something but we are not in each others lives. I also hate social media. In fact, I hate smart phones all together. He has complete access to my phone but he obviously doesn’t like me touching his because he feels like he is getting checked up on. I really have to resist the urge to go through his stuff sometimes.

As far as I am aware, they txt each other and maybe the odd snapchat. They may see each other out sometimes (at nightclubs or something) but I don’t think its arranged. They have a lot of mutual friends as they were together 2 years. I want him to tell me when he has seen her or when he has txt her and what its about but he asks why I need to know everything. I had a friend in a similar situation and it seems as though what is a big deal to a girl is not necessarily a big deal to the guy.

Thank you again Emmanuelle, I hope someone can read our conversations and find some peace as well 🙂