Thanks everyone.

Hi Bruce @hawk

From your earlier posts, it appears you are approx. 25 to 26 years old of age, yeah ?

Hey, what is the big fuss about this incident ? I am finding it difficult to comprehend. You have a fear of judgment by others and you are feeling paralysing shame. Seriously ?

Who is judging you besides yourself ? Do I care if you are a heterosexual or gay, needy or co-dependent, feeling shameful or being perfectionist ? NO. It is none of my business and it is no one else’s business either if you can get this sorted in your mind.

Your life is yours, mate. You live it the way you want to live. You want to be catfished – that’s your choice. You want to break free from shame – that’s your choice as well. You want to be en engineer – that’s your choice. You want to have pasta today instead of curry – that’s your choice as well. Where do others come into the picture ?

Do you fear judgment when you have diarrhoea or get sick or need to wear a certain shirt or take a certain route on the road ? I suspect your answer will be a NO. So why in this case ?

Don’t make this issue bigger than ben hur as you are not hurting anyone else except for yourself and no one is going to get you out of this shame except for yourself. You can spend hours, months or lifetime thinking about this or you can put a FULL STOP now. Wake up, my dear friend and smell some roses !!!!!

Blessings,

Jasmine