Jane (@goodkarma1),

I’m not going to get into whether or not her staying there is OK or not. I personally believe in platonic relationships between men and women, but know that there are those who don’t believe them to be possible.

What I did notice though from your posts is that you hold back your thoughts, have expectations and assumptions and then all of a sudden it all unravels. Then you feel bad about it, apologise and now you’re holding back again and having assumptions about what he thinks and feels and have expectations on how he should behave. What you’re not doing is actually communicating with him directly all the time 🙂 It is never a good idea to assume, when you could just ask. It is not a good idea to just expect, but to not express what your needs are.

Men in general are eager to please women and help them out. His friend made it easy “I need help, can I stay at your place?” “Sure.” You, on the other hand, are kind of like a mystery wrapped in an enigma 🙂 You say that it’s OK, and then all of a sudden blow up, then take it back. I’m pretty sure he wants to please you and keep you happy, but he isn’t a mind reader. He has to go by what you’re directly communicating to him. Right now he has somehow managed to upset you, without a warning. That’s stressful.

This kind of reminds me of this old joke: http://imgur.com/6icZ3

Please note that I’m not dismissing how you feel. Just pointing out that he might not have a clue and you have to openly and honestly communicate your feelings and needs, way, way before you reach a breaking point.