Thanks Ruminant. That was very helpful.

My ex was definitely not narcissistic. In fact, it was I perhaps who has a bit of the narcissist. Does that make her the codepedent? Probably not 😉 And she wasn’t fiercely independent, I don’t think. She was a very strong woman, but I know she needed me in various ways. Unfortunately, I felt so inadequate and anxious, I wasn’t able to be there for her in the ways she needed me.

I want to very much get to the core issues at hand and, it is through this program that I’m hoping to learn not to be too hard on myself – right now I’m wallowing in shame so deep and dark, I can barely see the sun. I’m willing to expose myself and be vulnerable, but I’m looking for healthy ways to do that – becoming a submissive panic stricken people pleaser is not healthy!

Having gone through the program, would you say it helped you deal with issues related to shame and self-loathing?