Michael,
I am so sorry to hear about your situation. I find some similarities. Although we were married, her decision also seemed to be sudden and swift so I can imagine how hard that was for you. I also really related to your mention of your girlfriend saying things had always been awful and not really agreeing. I know my wife and I had some problems and some arguments and some tension sometimes. I know we didn’t always agree on things and had very opposing needs at times, but we also had some wonderful times. WE laughed and loved each other… I was there, it happened. Yet, she is now saying the entire relationship was awful. She actually describes our relationship as her “time of misery” but I know that cannot be the entire truth. If it was then she wouldn’t have married me. I wouldn’t have so many text messages in which she says I’m wonderful. So what’s true? I just don’t know.