Hi everyone,

I just wanted to share a problem that I’m having with my neighbor. Well, I rent in a condo apartment complex. I am the last one on the end and only share the wall with one person. The problem is that he seems to like to play loud music late at night. This is bad because I’m a school teacher and I have to get up at 6:00 am for school. I also teach on Saturdays (I’m an ESL teacher). The walls are thin and I can hear every word of the songs. I have tried using earplugs, but they don’t help.

So, I have been living at this place for about a month and a half. It usually happens on Fridays, but also can happen on Saturdays, Sundays and sometimes weekday nights. The neighbor is an older man, single, and seems to be educated (from my only superficial impression). So, he came home at about 11:00 last night with the music playing loud in his car. He woke me up. I tried to go back to sleep. At midnight he turns the music up really loud in his house. This was the second time he woke me up. I was a little frustrated and I banged on the floor 3 times. I wanted him to know that I could hear the music. I was hoping that he would turn it down. (I mean, I’ve had neighbors bang on the walls when I was watching TV too loud and I’ve turned it down). So…. I wasn’t really expecting an agressive reaction. He turned the music up louder and started slamming doors and furniture in his apartment. This lasted for about 30 minutes and the music lasted for about an hour more.

I tried to relax and went back to sleep after the music stopped. I figured that he had gotten out his anger and had calmed down. Then, at 2:30 am he started playing the music really loud again. It was only two songs. This really makes me worry. I figured after the first tantrum that he had calmed down. Now I am starting to worry that he is going to continue this aggressive behavior towards me. Like, maybe, he would try to hurt me? Sorry, but I wasn’t expecting such a strong reaction to banging on the wall. Anyway, I need to contact the landlord tomorrow to let her know, but the problem is that my work is paying for my apartment (because I relocated from another state). So, it isn’t like I can just up and move, unless I want to pay for my own rent. I am such a peaceful person and I dislike conflict so much. I am really praying that this turns out on a positive note, but it’s 4:00 am and I am typing this, unable to sleep from an upset stomach.

I welcome any suggestions or comments. I really want to resolve this situation in the most peaceful way possible. I would normally try talking to a logical person, but I think that his reaction shows that I can’t count on a normal reaction.